Do you feel like a loser because you’ve done everything you can to get the job and still can’t get the job? Examine your inner dialogue. Yes, put away the resume, stop the job search and join me in this deep dive exercise exploring your ideas…
What are your beliefs about your candidacy? What “vibe” are you projecting in your phone interview, through your body language, through your choice of attire, through your resume and cover letter?
If your lack of confidence is holding you back in your job search, try thinking about the following:
Others can sense your lack of confidence.
A lack of trust can be “smelled” a mile away. Negativity, cynicism, and a “poor-me” attitude are unattractive—no matter how you try to mask it.
While it may seem simplistic and bordering on mere “self-help” talk, the beliefs we hold about ourselves are fundamental to our success. The concept of reversing a negative internal narrative seems simple; However, changing what you actually think, feel, and emit isn’t—but it’s definitely achievable!
If you lose a job offer, perhaps even in a second interview, we guarantee that the hirer will have sold their qualifications more confidently, been more persuasive in promoting their value, and closed the deal (job) by firmly assuring the employer. They are the best choice!
So, what causes your negative self-talk to be difficult to recognize?
The following fuel persistent negative beliefs about your worth, your prospects, and your expectations:
1. The shame of losing your job
No need to be ashamed. It happens to everyone at least once. We cannot control what happens in the world and often cannot control the events of our lives. However, we can control our reaction to what happens to us and we can decide to take action.
2. Internalizing past failures
“Success builds character, failure reveals it.” – Dave Checkett
Well, in one case: Judging yourself for past failures creates a false self-image and affects your self-confidence.. Understand that failure is part of the effort Own your failures Fosters intellectual and emotional growth, not defining yourself by your failures.
Understandably, if you’ve been out of work for a long time, creditors are calling you, and your funds are now very limited, you could easily find yourself in a desperate spot. However, we encourage you to adopt a new attitude.
Employers need you. So, when you are applying for jobs online, keep this in mind. Think about the value you bring as you write your resume Disruptive cover letter. You are a business. What service do you provide for an employer that makes you stand out from the competition? How do you make or save the company money?
By making this shift in your mindset during your job search, you’ll feel confident instead of frustrated.
This is probably the number one reason we all feel a little self-deprecating. We feel despair, get bored And angry, and sometimes needing to justify what happened.
Make a conscious choice to be kind to yourselfTrain yourself and pay attention to what you say to yourself—because negative beliefs can creep into your job search.
Break the habit of negative self-talk and you’ll be amazed at how quickly your confidence will rebound.
Start today to change the direction of your thinking and job search
Even if strategically Job search plan or interview strategy you have, if you can’t get your prospective employer to hire you, your self-marketing tools are meaningless.
You can’t sell something you don’t believe in and you can’t empower others to believe in you when you have no such enthusiasm in your own services/skills. Job search success is—and always has been—confidence.
Plus, it’s good to recognize how awesome you really are!
So, start noticing. Write down all the reasons you believe your job search is fruitless, what your weaknesses are, and why you think you’re not the best candidate, then eradicate that thought. Replace it with positive self-talk and prove it with achievements. Ironically, exploring your negative dialogue and turning it around can help you discover your UVP (Unique Value Proposition). This is what gets you hired.
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This article was originally published on an earlier date.
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